Having now joined the dating world again, I have come across something that has become a “pet peeve”. I know we girls have our issues, but there’s something you guys do that really is annoying, confusing and generally leaves me going “huh?” Perhaps it is a result of the feminist movement and their endeavor for equality that really boiled down to the emasculation of men. Perhaps it is the lack of a father figure or a weak father figure. Or perhaps it is because of the, excuse me, “b****iness” of girls. Regardless of the myriad of social reasons that could be boiling under the surface, the overflow that results is quite unsettling.
So here is my peeve. Why oh why, do you guys NOT tell us when you are no longer interested? I’m not necessarily talking about a first date where you don’t call the girl back, although that would be nice as well. But what about when you’ve hung out, gone on a few dates, talked and texted for weeks, and then poof… there’s nothing? I can understand a week, maybe two if you are busy, with no communication, but any more than that and I mean common!! Grow a set and tell us that you don’t want to have a relationship, or date or whatever you want to call it. Its ok, most of us can handle it. Personally, I would rather know than wonder, and heaven forbid, be called a “stalker” if I text or call to find out what’s wrong. Can you see my point of view here? I really do want to be pursued … not be the pursuer. Don’t make me watch “He’s Just Not that Into You” for the millionth time to figure out what you are trying to say or not say. Just tell me! Nicely, of course, but all it takes is a few words and then I can no longer wonder and you don’t have to complain about me to your friends.
I know the girls reading this are probably cheering, but remember there is a flip side. When the guy actually DOES tell you, then for heavens sake, believe him! Since guys say they are simple, we need to believe them when they say they are not interested. Regardless of what you “feel” or what you think they may be saying, when they really aren’t. They have a one-track mind remember? Girls, we can think of many things at the same time; they compartmentalize and think of one thing at a time. And when they say they aren’t interested, that’s the one thing they are concentrating on as being true. Remember… if a guy tells you he’s not interested, then why are you wasting your time on him? If he can’t give you the time of day, then don’t give yourself an ulcer being his watch. Keep looking for the one who IS interested and will move heaven and earth to be with you.
